This week was OAA testing at Paige’s school. They would be tested on their Math and reading skills. (You can read more about that here if you are not aware of the test.) Paige normally does a great job on standardized tests, yet she had major anxiety over this test. We just received her scores back from the STAR testing that she took last year and she scored way above average. This kid is super smart, so why would she be all stressed about a test?
The school administration and teachers, that’s why.
Someone is going around the school (not sure if it is teachers or the administration) and telling the kids how they will get held back if they fail these OAA tests. First of all, scare tactics do not work. If anything it will have the reverse effect and kids will be so stressed out that they won’t be able to focus.
So here is my child, crying and stressing out over a stupid test. I also found out that she wasn’t alone (from Facebook). Children from other districts were having the fear of being held back placed in their heads. Not the best thing to hear when you are a parent.
I calmed Paige’s fears before school explaining how she is a very smart kid and if she does her best she will be just fine and sent her off to school. I was expecting a call from school that she was hysterical, but luckily whatever I said to her worked. She made it through the day.
After I got home from work I ran to her room, where she was playing Barbies, to ask how her day went. Waterworks started immediately. She just let everything out from the whole day and was still stressed about the tests. I took her downstairs to have a talk with Dave and I. Surely he could figure out how to calm her down since I had failed. Dave has been known around these parts as the kid/baby whisperer.
After listening to Paige’s fears, Dave explained to her that no matter what we would fight for her. This ridiculous test was not going to make or break her. If they tried to hold her back in 3rd grade, we would go to battle for her. That was the game changer.
This was all that she needed. All that she wanted to hear was that we would fight for her. And fight for her we will. In my heart though I know that she will be just fine and won’t have any issues with that test, but I know that in the future she may need us to fight for her and I am glad that she knows that we will.
This started out as a different post altogether but over the course of 24 hours it morphed into something totally different. I had this crazy “Mama Bear” post written about how the education system is a joke and how it is ruining our children instead of helping them, but after the above course of events I realized that the most important thing is that your children know that you are there for them no matter what. You will fight for them.